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How to Find Your New Self After Breakup
You might know it is the right decision for both of you, but still, breaking up is never easy.
New Delhi: A calm well-intended conversation can turn into an argument as emotions run high or someone can feel hurt, rejected or that the trust has been broken after sharing their life with someone.
Often people who have made peace with their decision still do not know the best way to break off the relationship and wish for some kind of blueprint in how to approach such a difficult situation.
Sometimes the difficulties start before the breaking up when someone thinks they have made the right decision but can find themselves nervous or doubting their choice.
As you work toward discovering who you are as an ex-partnered person, and most importantly as an individual, remember that you existed in the world before and without your ex. You were somebody before you were their partner. There may even have been times you fantasized about ending the relationship yourself (yes, this is true for many people, even if grief at the loss of the relationship now seems intolerable).
It may feel too overwhelming to shake the feeling that there may be nothing you can do about the confusion, even desperation of not knowing who you are without your ex as a reference point. For now, just work on understanding that it’s ok not to know. It is a part of you to feel unfamiliar with what it means to be an individual. It’s a common struggle. As terrifying as it can be to lose track of who you were supposed to be in the world, this is part of your process. Just experience it. Listen to it. Take comfort in knowing that feeling uncertain about who you are is a part of you too. Know that you will ultimately re-make yourself in whatever form is right for you. (With ANI inputs)